And for what is not there, you have to use your heart and mind and your conscience.
My mother and father were educated at a religious college. My father also had a masters from a seminary. When it came time for me to decide about college, because I would not go to a religious college, as I did not want a religious occupation, they refused to help me with college at all and told me they would not even let me live at home if I attended the local community college. I was expected to go to religious college, marry a minister and that would be my life. Did I want to live my life with another domineering, authoritarian man? They made my childhood hell and I’d rather have died than to spend my whole life that way. So I was cut off when I was 16, nearly 17.
I got married, had a child, divorced and spent many years struggling at lower-level jobs while I raised my daughter. When it came time for her to go to college, all I could offer was free rent. She went to work and school for a while, got her AA degree, worked some more, then went into the military and did her 4 years, came home, went to the local University and with her military benefits and loans and part-time work, finally got her degree last Spring. She is 36 this year, not married and no children. It has been a long hard road. If I had been able to help her earlier, she would not have had to risk her life in the military. If I had been able to help her earlier, she may have already been on her career path and might have already started a family. Sometimes better late than never does not completely apply. Sometimes you just lose out on parts of your life you should have had.
I deeply regret that I wasn’t able to help her more. I would have been able to help her more if my parents had been willing to help me get my college education. I know it is not always possible, but it is my heartfelt belief that there is nothing more important a person can do for their children than making sure they complete their education as far as their capabilities and interest go. It is not a legal obligation but a gift of love and many people are willing to sacrifice for that so that their children and hopefully future grandchildren will not have to struggle as much.